Settling Down

Well, we are somewhat getting over the disappointment of the delay in the process. We understand there's no use dwelling on it, since we can't do nothing about it. Again, we have come to realize that after 6 years of this journey, it is OK to talk about disappointments, and just say it out loud.

We thought we were being strong in the past when we'd just not face it, pretend it wasn't there. But, it is there and it's real, so we just talk about it, say it out loud, let it out and let it off our minds. If not, it sits there building and building and building. Then, it could sneak into many other areas of our lives, our jobs, our marriage and our other relationships.

I'm so over expecting to have perfect lives. I often wonder about people who insist they don't have struggles, or trials. Also, I've gained much compassion for other's who are struggling. I've learned alot about how to really help people who are hurting.

Most of the time, hurting people just need to know that they are normal for having the feelings they are experiencing. Unless the feelings are unhealthy or they are controlling other parts of their lives, they need to know it's OK to feel the way they are feeling. Then, they need to be led and encouraged to let God speak to them during the trials. But generally, people need time to "soak in" the situation just after it happens. They need time to sort out their emotions and mourn if they have to.

Just a quick recommendation: Be real careful (if you don't have a strong relationship with them) of pouring on the "God has a plan...." or "It's God's timing...." stuff. Now, I'm not saying spiritual support is bad, of course it's helpful, but in the right time. As for me and Brandi, we know that God's hand is over us and this situation. Still, we get disappointed and when we are disappointed, we need to let ourselves go through the emotions of that. We have to deal with not getting what we expected. If we never do that, then it builds and builds and builds.

We have come to believe that during all these trials, God wants to draw us to closer Him, to draw from His strength more and He wants to teach us something. Maybe build that compassion for others in order to help them when they are going through similar things.

Honestly, when people who have never been through similar things try to help, it just doesn't do much. Now, people who have walked that road, people who can empathize with what we're feeling and the emotions we are experiencing, those people can really help you get through to the other side.

Other than all that, we know that the disappointments here on earth will be forgotten at some point before we begin our eternity in paradise. That's what Hope holds for believers.